which is the better show....i would say smackdown

Depends on what you're looking for.  The actual wrestling is probably better on SmackDown! (although, RAW's getting a little better, slowly but surely).
 
RAW has, at least IMO, the bigger names, and like johnnyc said, there's usually a lot more stuff going on, which can be good or bad, depending on how you look at it.
 
One thing I will say for RAW, at least last week, it focused a lot more on in-ring wrestling, instead of backstage stuff, and the upsets of Kennedy over Lashley and Carlito over Cena gave it more of an upredictable feeling than it's had lately.
 
And, if you want to waste an hour of your life that you'll never get back, there's always ECW!  

One thing I will say about RAW, there have been some things over the last few weeks (although just small things) that have been a step in the right direction, at least IMO.
 
Like the upsets this past week, I mean, who really thought that Lawler would beat King Booker?  The fact that Booker was DQ'd for continuing to pummel Lawler on the corner, when's the last time we saw that?
 
The squash match with Cryme Tyme.  Granted, the part after the match went on way too long, but still, it's been a long time since we've seen anything even remotely close to a squash match.  I think the last one, that I can remember anyways, is when they were first building Umaga up, they'd have him squash some poor schmoe week after week.
 
Like I say, there's still a lot of bad things, but things like these give me some hope that maybe they'll start changing direction, even if just a little bit.

I believe another thing that hurts Smackdown is the fact that the show is not live. By recording it on Tuesday nights and having the results show up on the internet, less people will tend to tune in, thus hurting the ratings. I, too, am not a fan of the backstage garbage. I can see doing the backstage interviews and the sneak attacks that come during those interviews, but all the crap in the GM's office or the like needs to go.

i agree she does need to leave

usually liked raw better...but smackdown is gaining ground.....